September 9, 2011
the most important thing
right now i’m in san francisco and having a great time with my best of friends. my awesome husband is treating the kids to daddy time and having lots of fun making fruit pops and going to the park. i’m taking in the scenery and having long dinners enjoying full sentences and conversations that aren’t interrupted by “mommy, i have to potty.”
i love my life and my husband and my kids. they are the best people i could ever devote my life to. but i have realized that i won’t have the energy to do that if i don’t ever have time to be just me….not mom or wife or sister or daughter or pastor..just me. this trip has helped me to renew my energies and finish my thoughts and think out entire ideas from start to finish. i feel like i’m finally finishing a story i started months ago.
i can’t wait to go back home to the lovely chaos that is mother, wife, daughter, sister, pastor. i am more convinced than ever that i should do everything in my power to keep the most important thing, my most important thing.
and like i’ve said before, everything else can go straight to my to-don’t list.
July 3, 2011
to do or not to do?
Recently I’ve been going through a sort of life-crisis. Nothing too big, just a little nervous breakdown and financial hard times paired with strained relationships and cramped living quarters. I picked up a book at the beginning of all this called Weird and in this book the author begins “strumming my pain with his fingers, singing my life with his words, killing me softly with his song, killing me softly with his song….”
As I read about the pressures he was facing in his life, the anxiety crept up inside of me and I could literally feel myself tensing up and after a few paragraphs I noticed I was holding my breath. I have only gotten through the first two chapters and already I have made significant changes in my everyday life. I made a to-don’t list and stopped doing things that I didn’t need to be doing. I told myself I was removing the stress and that by not doing my etsy shop and piano lessons and extra cleaning …that I was going to be happier and my mind was going to be lighter and more carefree. I’d have real time to read and play with the kids and write and knit for myself…
But now I’m just stressed about not doing anything. If i sit down to knit then I’m overcome with anxiety about what I could be doing. “I should really be washing something or emailing someone. I’m being lazy and selfish. That’s bad.” how did this backfire? where did i go wrong? if my day isn’t jam packed with things to do then I find myself agitated with the kids and bored to death and wasting time playing Plants vs Zombies instead of…instead of WHAT!? if I’m not supposed to DO anything yet can’t stand NOT doing anything….WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?? and why am i awake at 2:48am?
I feel God in all this, i really do. I feel torn apart at the seams. A couple of weeks ago I took a personality test and was distraught when the results came back the same as they were a year ago. i thought i changed. I thought I’d be more extroverted and sensitive to people and that my gifting of mercy was sky high by now. I thought I was working on being someone else..you know, the RIGHT person. but was i even supposed to change?
or am i exactly how He wants me to be?
I can question everything I do and everything I am, but in the end you never really change do you? None of us do. And as I type this I understand that I wasn’t supposed to change, I was supposed to go back to being myself.
I am a late night writer who thrives on creativity, I love having complete autonomy in my life and I do not care what people think about me. I am blunt with my honesty but loving in my delivery. I have an incurable sweet tooth and caffeine keeps the blood running through my veins. I’m confident enough to make decisions quickly and I’m stubborn enough to stick to them. I’m introverted and I would spend all my money on books and craft supplies if I could. I love my family more than anything or anyone on earth. My husband is first in my life and he should see me at my most loving and vulnerable. I’m going to give him my nicest moods and serve him first. My children will only be small for a very little while so I’m going to do sidewalk chalk with them and go to the park and read books in the afternoons and take long trips to the library. the rest of the world can go straight to my to-don’t list. I truly believe God made me and that my way of perceiving the world is just what it should be. I also believe that only God can help me change the wrong perceptions I have and alter them to look like the ones He has. I am optimistic enough to continue on this journey and realistic enough to know that hard times are always just around the corner. I have enough faith to dream and I have enough wisdom to make a plan B.
I am me.
April 13, 2011
bored with life part 2 ~ unbored
I’m happy to report that I took some of my own advice and tweaked my life a little.
1. Vacate. Well, I couldn’t hop on a plane, but the kids and I decided to test drive the new Crayola colored bubbles and had a gloriously messy afternoon in the sun. In the end it looked like we had been in a paintball fight so I grabbed the hose and went after the kids and then sunbathed for a few minutes like I was a silly teenager again. My skincare line is working overtime now, but hey, it was worth it!
2. I carded my own fiber and even though i had no idea what I was doing or whether it will come out looking right, I really enjoyed just going at something and having fun mixing things up. I’m looking forward to spinning the fiber soon and may post some pics of the finished product.
3. I remembered. I took a good long look at what I do and why I do it. And I remembered that I chose my line of work because I was grateful. Grateful for mercy and grateful for a second chance at life, to do things right, to make the right choices, to help others along the way. When faced with why I started down this road of being Reverend Mrs., I came full circle to the beginning..to the person I once was. I remembered how indebted I felt to God for being so kind and gracious towards me. I had to give something back, even if it was only my life.
I’m glad to say that my perspective has shifted once again. Away from myself and all the things cluttering my creativity and happiness. And it’s now on making things new again. Starting out fresh and enjoying the restful afternoons and the busy mornings spent planning and talking with friends.
It’s all very unboring.
April 5, 2011
bored with life
ever feel so bored with life? like everything has lost it’s challenge or has become old and moldy and really annoying? hobbies are just blah, work has lost its challenge, the things you used to enjoy in your daily routine are just….lackluster and redundant.
now what to do? where to make the appropriate changes so that you don’t screw up other people’s lives or your own but still find a way to make things new and exciting (or at least interesting) again?
here are some things I’m considering doing and maybe you’d like to consider them too:
1. Vacate. get away from all the normal stuff and take a real and serious break from everything. go away! for an afternoon, day, weekend, week, month….DO IT and when you come back…the absence will have helped your heart grow fonder.
2. unplug. don’t open the computer several (thousand) times a day. let the phone notify you all it wants as it sits under the couch just out of reach. leave the ipad/touch/phone/pod alone. do a puzzle instead. go to the park with the kids. READ A STINKIN’ BOOK! better yet, read a favorite childrens book that you loved when you were little and the world was whatever you wanted it to be.
3. try something new. pick up a new hobby. something that you never thought you’d be good at. you probably won’t be good at it but it will be fun.
4. find the reason. take some time to get alone and pray. ask God to remind why you are doing all the things that you are doing in the first place. ask Him to sincerely renew your passion for the things you should keep doing and give you new creativity for them. and then ask Him to give you peace about letting go of the things you just need to give up.
Sometimes life can be just so draining. Raising kids, helping people, doing something you love, keeping food on the table, having friends & family and answering every text that comes your way can really suck the life out of you. don’t do it anymore. it’s not worth it. we have one life and why waste it being tired and drained and stressed out? your life is worth loving.
and so is mine. I think I will take my own advice and do something out of the ordinary for me ………like go to bed.
Good night, darlings. See you in the morning when the world will be fresh once again!
March 26, 2011
today
Caleb turned 1 on Thursday. He really enjoyed his birthday donut.
Today, however he threw up all over an art exhibit, on Sam, my mom, on Sam again….. His stomach bug will hopefully leave soon and we will have our bright, sunshiny boy back in action.
Today Judah and Sophia worked on their “homework” and I really enjoyed seeing Judah challenge himself and not even think about giving up when the task got hard. Judah loves to learn and absorbs knowledge like a sponge, just like his dad. Sophia loves to draw and even though she underestimates her abilities, she always perseveres to try again.
Today Caleb waddled into the pantry, grabbed a cup off the shelf and then went straight to the refrigerator with it to try and reach the water dispenser for a drink. He’s so smart and very observant of what everyone around him is doing. He loves talking on the phone and trying to change the channel with the remote.
Today my sister and I drove up to Rice Village and shopped and ate and had a great time getting away from the every day. I love taking little escapes and getting to immerse myself in fun, enjoyable moments. Things like eating lunch at my own pace, browsing for as long as I want to in a boutique or taking a quick turn down a beautiful tree lined street to admire the homes, just because.
Today, I cuddled with my husband. Favorite part of the day.
February 6, 2011
great adventure
my little one is so big!
he’s got four teeth and is taking steps. he’s very adventurous and loves to dance!
he’s very good natured and smells like pure wonder!
we went to the park after 3 days inside because of the cold and ice. he loves watching big brother and sister play and is just about ready to get down and go play with them!
3 kids. what an adventure!
Reverend Mrs. 